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Unconditional Parenting
Give unconditional love - it’s trickier than you think.
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| Author | Alfie Kohn |
| Year | 2005 |
The Book in 3 Sentences
- We can accidentally make our love feel conditional. If kids feel like they only get approval, attention, or affection when they behave well or achieve something, they may start believing they're valued for what they do instead of who they are.
- Rewards can be a representation of conditional love. Things like sticker charts, praise, and consequences can all make kids focus on earning approval instead of developing their own motivation, empathy, and judgment.
- What I liked most was his shift in perspective - Instead of asking, "How do I get my child to do this?" he encourages asking, "What does my child need right now?" It's a more relationship-first approach that prioritizes trust, collaboration, and raising thoughtful, independent kids over getting immediate obedience.
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